Why don’t mother and daughter-in-laws get along?
- daughter-in-law, diasgreements, getting along, Marriage, mother-in-law
- October 6, 2014
“I pray my mother-in-law is dead before I marry my husband’
I was in my first year in the university, when my room mate uttered those words. I initially thought she was only joking when she said it, but I soon realized that she wasn’t. Her mother’s distasteful experiences and those of the ‘many’ married women she knew and heard about had taught her what she believed to be a universal fact;
‘Most wives don’t get along with their mother-in-laws because
most mother-in-laws are difficult and even diabolic’.
After I got over the shock of hearing such a self-centered statement, I asked her how she’d feel if God answered a similar prayer from her brother’s future wife. The moment she realized that the answer of such a prayer could mean her own mother’s death, she quickly decided that her initial prayer point was inappropriate 😉
THE ISSUE/MY QUESTION
Its no big news that many daughter-in-laws don’t get along with their mother-in-laws. The real issue for me is WHY IS THIS THE CASE? and what is the SOLUTION to the problem?
I already asked two young men and these were their comments;
“Women in general are not very good at sharing. As a guy, I can walk into my friends room and go straight to his locker to pick something to eat and he’d not be offended. But ladies!!! No way. They’ll never do that. So I think they just carry over that character of not wanting to share into their relationship with their mother or daughter-in-laws. Neither the wife nor the man’s mother wants to share the man’s time, attention and affection or money with the ‘other’… Thats why I think daughter and mother-in-laws don’t get along”
“Well I think its just a question of that particular woman’s character or attitude. Over time, I’ve noticed that women who don’t get along with their daughter or mother-in-law also don’t get along with other people. So for me its just a question of a woman’s true character showing itself in whether or not she gets along with her daughter or mother-in-law.”
Now its your turn to comment. Do you agree with Azubuike or Moses or do you think differently? Plus. What do you think could be a solution to the problem?
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