Afraid Of Making Mistakes? Listen to this!
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
(the 26th president of the united states of America)
In today’s episode, I’ll be speaking to everyone who is stuck in one stage of their life because they’re afraid of failure or making mistakes.
So, I’d like you to pause for a minute, shut your eyes (I’m serious), just shut your eyes and imagine what your life would be like right now if you weren’t afraid to fail.
What goals or dreams would you have pursued and what would your life be like now if you refused to let failure hold you back and then you tried and succeeded?
Now open your eyes and listen to me, whether you’re considering making changes in your career, business or personal life, you need to remember this – that no one, absolutely no one achieves success by doing everything perfectly every time. Every star athlete has had to spend hours and days and months and even years training and training and practice in order to be able to win on the day of the competition. Many practice days were filled with failed attempts at performing as well as they hoped to on the D-Day. In fact, they’ve failed even during competitions, but they didn’t let the fear of failing either at practice time or on the big stage keep them from going after their goals.
The same is true of every successful businessperson. Listen to their interviews or read their books and you’ll hear them speak of the mistakes they made along the way and how their decision to keep working towards achieving their goals, without succumbing to the fear of failure has played a major role in helping them to achieve the success we now celebrate them for.
But you might say – “Ify I know what you’re saying is true. But it still doesn’t make this easy. I’ve failed so many times before now and the feeling of failure sucks so much I don’t want to even take any risk that would potentially mean I could fail again.”
Hmmnn. I hear you too, but I’ve just 4 questions I’d like you to ask and answer anytime this the above thought runs through your mind:
- What would my life look like if I quit trying to succeed and just remain where I am and how I am right now?
- What would my life be like if I try again and win this time around?
- Who has achieved the exact results that I want to achieve so badly right now and
- How can I learn from him/her/them as closely as possible? By closely I mean, usually, the best way to get quick results is by getting a mentor who takes your hand and shows you what to do per time, and this may be possible depending on who this person is and whether or not you have a personal relationship with him or her. But many times, one on one mentorship isn’t possible, so you can get the person’s books or pay for their online courses or offer to volunteer to serve at their events so by so doing you cultivate a personal relationship with them that can, in turn, make it easier for you to build a mentor/mentee relationship.
But like you’ve seen asking these 4 questions helps you to shake yourself up and say, hmmm, I have to try again. I have to try again, maybe in a different way, but I definitely have to keep going until I get the right results I’m looking for.
Now I’d love to hear from you!
Did you find this episode helpful? Please tell me all about what you learned in the comments.
Got any tips on how you deal with the fear of failure so it doesn’t hold you back from pursuing your goals/dreams? Please tell us all about that too in the comments. I and everyone else whose read this post would love to hear all about it so do share.
Thank you so much for listening, reading and sharing your thoughts with all of us.
Your insightful questions and contributions indeed make our conversations
on here much richer and I appreciate you for that.
You indeed only live once, be sure to take the time to make sure you’re
living a truly rich and productive life.